Easy Tips to Enhance Your Relationship With Parents

Since I was very litter, my mom alway says her love to me is always unconditional, and she will  whisper in my ears

“You are my sunshine, my only sunshine

You make me happy when skies are gray

You’ll never know dear, how much I love you

Please don’t take my sunshine away

….”

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My father, in another hand, who has difficulty to express his feeling with words. Instead, he would express his love through his action. He sent me to the most expensive schools, hired the best teachers to tutor me, and he always made sure I got everything I needed.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched — they must be felt with the heart.” — Helen Keller

While I thought I was the luckiest kid in the world, they got divorced, right before I turned seven. For a long period of time, I was frustrated and desperate, trying to do everything I could to get their attention and only hoping doing so could save my family from tearing apart. I cut school, I stole, and I even cut my hair like a boy just to give them hard times. I acted like a hopeless and what my relatives called an “irreparable” child for almost 10 years. And then, all the sudden, I just realized in my deepest heart that the status of their marriage doesn’t interference my relationships with them. Hurting them was just as worst as hurting me.

After realizing how much they have sacrificed for me, there is not a single day I don’t regret what I have done. And then I got through my head, I have learned that in our lives, we do things and made mistakes, and we might end up hating ourselves for what we did. But there is no reason for us to have regrets. Hopefully, all of us grow by self-reflection and keep growing all the time. Plus, parents always forgive their children no matter what.

Long story short! It is never too late to make up your past. Here are some easy tips on what I did to enhance my relationships with my mom and dad!

I treat my parents as if they are my best friends.

  • Have a girl time with your mama, share your little secrets with her, tell her about your date, there is nothing you could do to make her happier than being intimacy with her.
  • Go excise with your dad, discuss a book with him, tell him about all these exciting things happened at school. I always ask my dad what’s his point of views on news matters, because it will make him feel respected and needed.
  • Remember their birthdays and don’t forget to send them little presents like what you would do to your best friends. Gifts don’t have to be expensive, parents don’t like when we spend a lot of money buying their presents. You could make them a birthday card, knit a scarf, or even make a funny video of yourself! I still remember 10 years ago, I got my mom a nice perfume for Valentine’s day by using the money I saved from my first job. On the card, I said, “Dear Mom, I will always be your Valentine.”

I tried to spend more time with them, and at least hang out with them once a week.

  • Cook with your parents whenever you can. Show them your survival skills you have learned overseas. I always help clean up and wash the dishes after dinner, to show them I am capable taking good care of myself.
  • Dress up your mom and take selfies together! I always dress up my mother and take her shopping, it’s important to make her feel young and beautiful at all times!
  • Give them a massage while watching TV.

Last but not least, keep in mind to always be patience with them.

Year after years, I had come up with my own definition of love. Love is prioritizing the person you love most. In an eye blink, the ones that love you most have grown old. There aren’t too many times left. I wish you all have a healthy and loving relationships with your mom and dad.

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“Girls Dress up for Girls,” but We Tell You How to Dress up for Better Relationships Take 2

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In the previous post, we talked about the importance of always dressing in comfortable and appropriate outfits. It not only can boost one’s confidence; but is also a wordless presentation of one’s self-image. Let’s continue to explore and discover more about what USC international students say about appearances and relationships!

 

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  • Olivia Liang   Strategic Public Relations Major

“It is important to develop your own fashion style and have fun with it!”

Olivia enjoys casual wear. “I am a typical Asian nerd, jeans and T-shirts are my favorite outfits at all time.” When Olivia is dressed comfortably, she is more likely to express her opinions and to bond with people better, which also helps her performance in class. 

Americana at Glendale is her favorite shopping spot, “because it has some recreational facilities other than shopping. I can sit on the lawn or go watch a movie when I am tired.”

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  • Laura Cai     Strategic Public Relations Major

“Don’t be afraid to show people your personalities by using bright colors, unique clothing cuts or bold accessories!”

Laura loves to make a statement with her clothing. She firmly believes that clothing tells others a lot about a person. She loves to surprise her boyfriend with different styles of outfits to keep excitements in love. “It turns my boyfriend on every time I try on a different style outfit!” Please try it at home with your boyfriend fellows! 

Her favorite shop is Zara. Because she believes that clothes don’t need to be expensive to look good.

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  • Shuang Chen   Strategic Public Relations Major

“I love pairing up white blouses with jeans, shirts, or pants. It is classic, elegant, and compatible with almost anything.”

Shaun’s dressing style is feminine. She thinks dressing appropriately will help her leave a good first impression on people she meets and talks to, especially during networking events. “People tend to be friends with those who dress in a similar style, dressing and presenting myself is something I constantly learning.”

Her favorite shopping brand is J.C Crew, “It has everything I need. And are affordable for students.”

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  • Kerong Su   Strategic Public Relations Major

“It is important to dress suitably for the occasion and have fun with your clothing! Don’t take it too seriously!”

Kerong has an easy-going personality. She only wears clothes that make her happy. She said, “I don’t have a particular fashion style, but I always make sure not to overdress.” When hanging out with her “besties”, Kerong likes to wear similar style outfits with her friends, because similar outfits tie them closer together like sisters.

Her favorite designer shop is Fendi. “Fendi reminds me of all the exciting things I’ve done or not yet done in life. It is fun and young!”

Finally, it is my turn to tell you all about my fashion tips!

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  • We should know our body figure and wear clothing that is flattering your figure, and don’t be shy to show off your legs, shoulder, or boobs if you have one!

 

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  • Step outside of your fashion comfort zone. Don’t always wear blue jeans and white t-shirt, put on a colorful print jumpsuits or a longuette. Make every day a fashion day for yourself!

 

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  • It is not necessary to keep up with the newest trends, but you should update your closet regularly. I always get rid of items or old clothes every season, if you don’t want to throw them away, give it to your younger cousin or donate them to Goodwills.

 

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“Girls Dress up for Girls,” but We Tell You How to Dress up for Better Relationships

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Packaging is one of the most important elements regarding selling a product. It is the same when it come to one’s physical appearance. Research show “what you wear can influence your thinking and negotiating skills and even hormone levels and heart rate.” In fact, the clothes you wear send authoritative signals to peers and strangers. They can help you express yourself better and make your interpersonal skills stand out.

It is not fair to judge a book by its cover, but intuitively, it is easier for beautiful people to start connecting with others. The world we are living in is in favor for beautiful human beings. Fashion is a language that creates itself in clothes to interpret reality,” said Karl Lagerfeld, the fashion designer and creative director of Chanel and Fendi. It is no guarantee that your outfits will get you an “A” in classes, but indeed, how you present yourself helps you get good impressions and also shows respect for others. 

I have run across with many Chinese international students at USC; a lot of them have already realized the importance of always dressing in comfortable and appropriate outfits that can boost their confidence. Let’s see what they say about appearances and relationships!

  • Your fashion tips.
  • How do you think dressing in comfortable and appropriate outfits make you express yourself better and make your interpersonal skills stand out? Does it also help with your relationships? Give me an example.
  • Your favorite shops in L.A.

 

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  • Chloe Zeng   Strategic Public Relations Major

“ The clothes that suit you is the best! And always prepare a black dress, a white T-shirt, and black jeans. Also, the quality and look of my shoes are crucial. I love wearing 2 inches heels because they make my legs look longer and are comfortable walking all day across campus.”

Dressing up makes Chloe feel confident and also makes her stand out from others; feeling confident encourages her to engage in all kinds of relationships. She thinks fashion is magic and can really change a person, it helps him/her to transfer to what he/she want to be seen as.

Her favorite place to shop is Barney’s New York, “because it is a boutique where all the brands and products have been selected by their buyers. And they carry special designers that are exclusive, like Valextra, Delvaux…”

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  • Mazarine Li   Strategic Public Relations Major

“Embrace your true self and have a unique style. Let people know who you really are by expressing it through what you wear!”

Dressing up makes Mazarine feel good about herself. And when she feel pretty about herself, she feels more confident integrating with others. “I am very shy, but some outfits make me feel empowered and all the sudden I have the courage to talk and make friends with others. That played a significant role when meeting someone I like.”

Nasty gal is her favorite shop, the clothes they sell make her feel like an American girl!


If you enjoyed this post, don’t miss out  How to Dress up for Better Relationships Take 2!